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37. Farts in a Submarine and Peeing in a Pool

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The parsonage in Palmyra was large and well maintained, though the basement was dark and creepy. Few churches are good landlords, but the good people on the Board of Trustees in Palmyra kept the parsonage up to snuff.

The parish supplied parsonage was right behind the church at the four corners in the center of town. It is fondly remembered as being large enough to have played basketball in the attic, pocket doors between downstair rooms, two fireplaces, and a stained glass lined staircase that wound its way upstairs from the first floor. It had four bedrooms and a parlor; big enough for me to comfortably set up a home office.

We had a key to the church in the parsonage foyer, hung on a hook on the backside of the door jam, chained to an oversized block of brass. It was an ingenious effort to prevent the key from walking off. I still think everyone in town had a key to the church and our house. Common were the late Saturday nights after the bars let out that we’d have a drunk leaning against our doorbell, slurring, drooling, begging for dollar or a ride home. 

The back door exited right on the church parking lot. Our son, Nicholas, and I enjoyed riding our bikes on that parking lot, playing an improvised version of polo, using hockey sticks and pucks. I’m sure the neighborhood talked about the new crazy Methodist pastor playing with his son. It didn’t matter to me what other people thought. A father playing with their son was a reputation well earned, I thought to myself.

We used thick sticks of chalk to draw on the pavement and the sidewalk connecting the parking lot to the church. Encouragement; everyone needs some! Faith; “Come, join us!” “Grow deep your faith.” “Rise and shine! Give God the Glory!” It was sidewalk evangelism at its finest.

The church, parsonage, and parking lot were right in the center of village life. Two doors to the North was the old village cemetery, overlooking the Erie Canal. The eldest brother of the founder of Mormonism, Joseph Smith, is buried there. Mormon pilgrims from all over the world come to visit the grave of Alvin Smith.

During the summer, tour busses would pull into our parking lot, where my son and I played, to drop off and pick up pilgrims. Not once or twice; multiple times a day. It was unsafe. No one asked permission. This practice exposed the church to unacceptable liability and risks, so I thought. I put my foot down and told the local community that the church parking lot could not be used for tour busses. 

My response was like a fart in a submarine. The message to our Mormon neighbors was loud and clear. Palmyra took notice. Colleagues raised an eyebrow. Certainly, some giggled about the crazy Methodist bicycle riding, polo playing, preacher and his son.

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A true benefit of serving in a larger village church is the blessing of likeminded colleagues from other Christian denominations. We, local clergy, met weekly for breakfast at one of the village restaurants. Presbyterian, American Baptist, Roman Catholic, Episcopalian, Friends, United Methodist. It didn’t matter. Those who gathered around the table were safe. None would be promoted or elected to be your supervisor. There is no risk of saying or doing something that would damage a career.

It was a good opportunity for fellowship, to network community resources, sometimes, to just let down our hair and be silly. Families from different churches married one another. We covered for each other when vacations were taken and made hospital calls when another was out of town.

We learned about one another: best practices, denominational differences, career risks and rewards. We talked about undertakers; who paid what for funerals. And we talked about musicians; “anyone know where I can find a good cellist for a wedding?” Our families and spouses enjoyed each other. It is a joy to work together, collaborate on community wide ministry projects, and to establish a track record of success.

We shared communities secrets. Confidence was held. We could be safe with each other over a plate of scrambled eggs, toast, and bacon. Kids. Schools. Local politics. Rumors. Gossip. Births. Deaths. Adultery, divorce; you name it. We heard and saw it all. Peers serving sibling faith communities became fast friends, tenured anchors of objectivity and wisdom, lifelong blessings. 

Thank you, Lord, for my clergy colleagues and friends.

One local tradition was the Advent choir festival, an annual gathering of choirs on the first or second Sunday of Advent. It was held late in afternoon to a standing room only packed house. Choirs shared Advent and Christmas anthems. We always ended with one of the choir directors leading all the choirs and congregation in singing Handel’s “Hallelujah Chorus” from Messiah. It was glorious! Lay and clergy members from the ecumenical community packed the host sanctuary. A collection was always taken on behalf of a local charity. 

One year we received a request. Could the choir from the Mormon Stake take part in the Advent Choir Festival? Debate circled the clergy breakfast table. We each consulted our respective church boards, councils and choirs, superintendents and Bishops. We debated, gathered information, discerned, and prayed. 

No formal vote was taken, but, over the course of time it became apparent to us clergy leaders that Joseph Smith’s Latter Day revelations of God and his visitation by the Angel Moroni were inconsistent with our revelation and experience of God. Joseph Smith’s choice was to lead his followers away from traditional dogma. He left us; we didn’t leave him. His experience of God was not ours. Larger ecumenical claims of faith were not on our radar, neither would be the Mormon experience. The answer was no. 

A second fart in a submarine brought each of us clergy a smirk and eyeroll from the waitress serving our weekly bacon and eggs.

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Bright flashes and an intense headache on one side of my head caught my attention. Stroke? Or, something else?

Blood pressure: normal. Pupils, equal and reactive. Vitals were all within normal limits. Check. Check, and check. Though after hours, time to call the doctor.

Long story short, a retinal hemorrhage has sidelined my swimming. Rotating my head back and forth to rhythmic breathing makes for a shaken snow globe like experience.

Guess I’ll never be a fighter pilot.

Floaters, the doctor called them. Good thing, because floaters, together with tinnitus, could be easily mistaken for hallucinations. The doctor assured me vision will return to normal in six months. In the short term, no bending, lifting, or rotating my head. With a snow storm bearing down on the region, it means no snow shoveling (for the win!).

Aging is a beautiful thing.

An elevated walking track above a gymnasium full of pickle ball courts has to make due for the time being. My wife allows me to use one of her mechanical counters to keep track of laps. If only there was some kind of equivalent for swimmers, I think to myself. It is satisfying to punch the counter with the completion of every revolution around the track.

The competition below makes me think of the waiting room filled with newly retired people coming in for physical therapy at the specialized orthopedic hand clinic. A motor vehicle collision gave me a seat at the table in the department of broken toys. For many it was a pickle ball related injury that curbed their enthusiasm and made them bow in submission at the table of orthopedic repair and rehabilitation. 

“What happened to you?” I ask, as I elevate my broken arm and cast. “I broke my arm playing pickle ball,” was a common answer. My cast was purple. Others were pink, green, and red. Were we color coded in this strange new world? We looked at each other and shook our heads in silence, waiting for our names to be called.

Twenty laps on the walking track equals a mile and a half. Good to know. Not bad for this old geezer with two titanium knees.

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I received a call from one of the local Mormon missionaries, who asked to speak with me. “Yes, of course,” I replied. We set a time and date to meet at the parsonage, in our parlor. Only the brightest and best looking missionaries are sent from Salt Lake City to Palmyra for their one year service obligation. They want to put their best foot forward. I can’t blame them. I would, too. 

The door opened to my surprised. The Mormon missionary was right from central casting. He was a newly retired television anchorman from Utah. Fit and handsome, high and tight. With him, was Jud, one of my church leaders; a man born and bred, dyed in the wool, United Methodist. His lineage was peppered with a long history of Methodist circuit riders and church leaders. Jud was a veteran of the Battle of El Amin, made deaf by unrelenting artillery, and I greatly respected him.

“Pastor Todd,” the elder Morman missionary began, “I brought Jud with me to talk about his possible conversion to Mormonism.”

Jud adjusted the volume on his hearing aids, gave me a wisp of a smile and twinkle of his eye.  

Poaching members from other churches is called proselytizing, and it is hugely frowned upon by fellow clergy and our respective denominations. It is like peeing in your neighbor’s swimming pool; you just don’t do it. Apparently our Mormon neighbors had not received the memo. 

I smiled, thanked the missionary for being straightforward with me, and politely asked him to leave. I wasn’t being rude; just being honest. His protest faded, but eventually he gave up, turned on his heels and left. Jud and I sat on my front porch watched him drive out from the church parking lot. 

“You weren’t really planning to become a Mormon,” I said to Jud. 

“No,” he chuckled. “But I thought it would get a good rise out of you.” And so he did. Jud, my beloved church leader, generous and mischievous, wrinkled by wisdom and experience, reserved and dignified in a beautiful sort of way. He and I sat quietly on my front porch that warm summer day in the shadow of the church steeple, watching and listening to the life of Palmyra going about its business. And life was good.

The attempt to poach Jud and his wife from my flock came after an interview by a reporter from a Mormon magazine. I had been new, and didn’t know any different. The reporter took a nice picture. The article was kind and professional. After the proselytizing pee in my swimming pool, I wouldn’t be interviewed for any more articles about my progressive theology.

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The final straw came at the end of my first year. Local clergy were invited to front row seats and the VIP treatment at the annual outdoor Mormon pageant. Famous Mormon celebrities, Donnie and Marie, were going to play the lead roles. The critically acclaimed Tabernacle choir was going to perform. This ten-day repeat performance traditionally drew thousands of the curious from the region. My own mother reported that she had attended once in her youth.

It was a clandestine effort to grow the Mormon church.

So, my colleagues and I declined to be used as props for their predatory evangelism. Nope, neither would we volunteer to flip hamburgers and hot dogs in their festival booths. None of us, we determined, would allow the mission and ministry of our local parishes to be undermined and ruined by our less than honorable neighbors, no matter how nicely they dressed, proclaimed lily white American values, or claimed to be followers of Jesus. 

Tolerance and respect are qualities that I’ve tried to practice and encourage others to develop in their journey of faith. I really tried to keep an open mind regarding our Mormon neighbors, but they never made it easy. I wished it was different, but I eventually came around to the opinion that the effort to proselytize members from others is so hard wired into the Mormon faith that there wasn’t anything I could do to change it. Wishing it away wasn’t going to change it. The only cooperation was to not cooperate.

Others have wondered over the years, how I can be so tolerant and welcoming to people of other faiths and religions, but be so cold to Mormons. Being neighborly must be reciprocal. I’ve tried to go overboard, to exceed expectations with abundant hospitality, to surpass Mr. Rodgers at being a good neighbor. But, once burned, shame on me. Twice burned, shame on you. 

It is important to live my values, make my stand, and never compromise my faith. Always be kind. Smile. But be firm. It is possible to say “no” and to remain friends. Sometimes, I just have to walk away. 

35. Discerning a Way Forward

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The two of us worked out a way that we could function as a pastoral team to support the needs of the people, despite our personal differences and uncomfortable circumstances. We kept lines of communication open between us. We shared equally the responsibility of preaching and leading worship. We were professionals, we told ourselves, and, by golly, we should act like it. 

The winds of war were shifting the year before I had moved from Dresden. Across the lake was the chief Army Depot for the East Coast. A cruel, greedy dictator’s action to steal his neighbors oil half a world away was waking a slumbering American giant. Huge C-5A cargo jets cycled in and out of the military airfield, withdrawing munitions, depositing them in distant lands. Trains plied the iron, loaded with the means of war, unloading at East Coast docks. 

Politicians postured. Lines in the sand were drawn. The era felt as if we were being flung into the inevitable, a clash of extreme violence.

“Blessed are the peacemakers,” I recall preaching from Gospel beatitudes, to two full worship services each Sabbath, averaging over 350 per Sunday. One or two showed their disgust, got up and walked out. The hint of Christian nationalism was starting to show itself, and the future was cloudy, at best, apocalyptic, at worst. 

The lesson of disgruntled members of the parish for me was to grow a thicker hide. Stand convicted on the Gospel, the Truth of Jesus Christ, and let the chips fall where they may. Some, I’m sure, hate our Lord’s message of love God, love neighbors, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you. While it may feel like a personal rejection, from my Christian milieu, turning one’s back on Jesus, is a rejection of God. 

It isn’t, and never was, all about me. The conflict is a deeper struggling for meaning, a conflict that is written in the DNA of the human experience. In my own attempt to square the circle, I’ve come to believe in the Divine Providence of a loving God. At the same time, I recognize that the evil of this world, if left unchecked, will destroy with wonton abandon. 

The only logical conclusion is that it takes brave men and women to make a stand opposed to violence and evil, that the rest of humankind may live in peace. I’m grateful that God calls others to positions of responsible deterrence. Concurrently, I’m grateful to be called in a different direction, to tend the flock of the faithful, to preach the Word, and celebrate the Sacrament. Blessings to those called and prepared brave men and women who stand firm in the breach of impending violence, prepared to risk it all, be they fighter pilots, submariners, or cops on the beat. 

Others just see the world differently.

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Ministry in the heart of the Finger Lakes of New York was good. We are blessed with four distinct seasons of the year, rare cases of catastrophic climatic events, and prosperous hamlets, villages, and towns. 

Healthcare has always interested me. Had it not been for a bad experience back in high school biology class, I could have gone the way of medical school, as my older brother did. Our city congregation was blessed with numerous doctors, nurses, therapist, and social workers.

One physician was about my age, married and had three beautiful children, two sons and a daughter. He was balancing the work, family matrix. After a difficult clinical shift, he would often stop by my parsonage to destress over cigars in my garage.

He was raised in a progressive Christian family, his parents serving as missionaries in South America. He learned to fly the missionary airplane into and out from jungle stations before he learned to drive a car. Home schooled, he went to a prestigious university and graduated from an exceptional medical school. Less than ten years into his profession, he was the head of a department at one of the local hospitals. He was going places.

Just not the places I expected.

There was a nurse, he explained to me, who desired to expand their relationship from the bedside to the bed. He was tempted by the sugarplum imagination of passionate adultery with another woman. He had even confessed his temptation with his wife. Yet, he claimed, he did not know what to do. What was my take on it? He asked.

A quick response is unusually a bad reaction, no matter how well meaning, in my experience. I puffed on my cigar in deep thought. My soul was frightened, fearful that one wrong word would result in utter catastrophe. A loving, talented wife. Three beautiful children. A professional reputation. A lifetime of deep faith and Christian morality. All this, and more, hung in the balance. I recalled my wife’s disgusting reports of similar behavior at her hospital. Colleagues disreputable behavior causing painful harm in clergy families and local churches also raced through my mind. 

“Don’t do it,” I finally broke the silence. Absolute truth and honesty surprised both him and me. It had to be said. I proceeded to lay out the dilemma with my God given talent for mathematics and logic. “Are you prepared to live a dishonest life?” I concluded. 

“No,” he slowly resolved. “I am not.”

But what about his matrimonial confession? His wife most certainly was feeling lost, betrayed, on the verge of abandonment. “Have your wife meet you here,” I’m strategizing even as I’m thinking. God, Don’t leave me now, I’m thinking to myself. “My wife and I will leave the house to just the two of you so you can talk it out.” Space and time would give him the opportunity to express his resolve to end the amorous flirtation and create the possibility for healing to take place. 

My friend and parishioner made the call. My wife and I went shopping. Something Divine must have taken place. In time, he left his prestigious position and took another at an academic hospital in the mid-West. We exchanged Christmas cards for years thereafter. Their letters were filled with family, love, and faith. 

My heart was contented. God’s healing grace is truly amazing. 

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Laps in the pool this morning blew by. I started sharing a lane with a gentleman who I was becoming familiar with through our greetings in the locker room and on the pool deck. He is kind and considerate, values I appreciate and try to reciprocate. He finished his laps just as I was about to get started. 

As I reached for the final wall, another swimmer joined me. We exchanged pleasantries. I was breathing heavily, cooling down, thinking about the hot shower that was waiting for me. “You know,” he began, “I appreciate swimmer’s courtesies. Some are more readily willing to share a lane, others not so much.”

I agreed. “We only rent a lane for a short period of time,” I struggled to find the right words. “It’d not like we own it.” Mutual respect among swimmers avoids collisions and injury.

“If only the rest of the world was as kind and considerate as you are,” he concluded. The silence hung pregnant in the moment. I departed, leaving behind a blessing, wondering if I was worthy of his kind words. 

Sometimes circumstances demand that I just take it, God’s grace be praised. 

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My petition to the Bishop’s office for a move was met with silence. I had two solid years of fruitful ministry, five years of full-time tenure. It was just the fact that my sails were cut from different cloth from my appointed partner. I needed to captain my own ship. 

Bigger churches and larger compensation appointments were the first to fall with the start of the new year. Moves traditionally took place the end of June, the beginning of July. The telephone rang mid-March and the call was from the District Superintendent, an old friend of the family, serving in the rural Adirondacks. “The Bishop and I would like to send you to …,” he began. 

My heart fell as fast as the Roadrunner’s anvil.

A quick reaction is a bad one. Hold your tongue, I told myself. Pause. Count to ten, my mother taught me. He offered me a two point charge, a larger village church and a small country chapel. It was miles away from civilization and the nearest hospital where my wife, Cynthia, could continue with her call as a labor and delivery nurse. 

Fortunately, I was the benefactor of a two-year continuing education opportunity with Perkin’s School of Theology at Southern Methodist University. I was placed in a core group of eleven youthful peers from across the country, paired with two seasoned elders, visionary leaders from their respective Annual Conferences. My mentor was the pastor of the Methodist cathedral in Houston, Texas. He visited me twice in New York. I made the sojourn four times to a restful Episcopal retreat center in Flower Mound, Texas. Dr. Stan Menkin, a professor at Perkin’s brought us all together.

Episcopal appointment making was one of the topics. Each subject matter required a lot of reading and writing in preparation, and resulted in lively discussion within our core group when we met.

Don’t make a snap decision, was the wisdom. Give room for the Holy Spirit to speak. Consultation is the word used in The Book of Discipline of The United Methodist Church. Our mentors concluded: Take the gift of consultation to do your homework, discern the Spirit’s will, then come to a conclusion and make your case forthrightly. 

“Give me 48 hours and I’ll get back to you,” I told the Superintendent. 

My wife and I set out for an anonymous visit to the prospective parish. We tried our best to keep an open mind. We visited some firefighters washing their firetruck on the ramp of the village fire station. We had lunch in the local diner. We took a long walk down Main Street and visited the swings at a local park. What is the mood of the community? How are the schools? What keeps people occupied? What do you do for fun? We asked around, a lot. 

The local papermill was closing. People were either hardscrabble farmers or public employees of the town or school district. Storefronts were abandoned. Housing was in decay. Life had boomed in the 1950’s, but had gone downhill ever since. The nearest labor and delivery hospital was an hour away. Lake effect snow fell each season with apocalyptical effect. The parsonage was physically attached to the church.

The Spirit was speaking. 

“No,” I responded to my disappointed colleague. “I’m not feeling called to a parish and town in decline, where my wife would be unemployed, and where we couldn’t meet our student loan responsibilities.”

“But, could you do the job?” He asked me again and again, like a hammer and chisel searching for a crack. Of course I could do the job, I asserted with all my five years of pastoral experience. “I just don’t believe I’m called to take this appointment.”

And thus I hung it all out there. “I’ll get back to you,” he replied.

Back to waiting …

Meanwhile, the fire alarm fired off my pager at three in the morning. “Tree down on West Lake Road,” I heard as I dressed, got in my truck, and activated my flashing blue light. 

An ice coated tree lay across the road, and all the associated downed power lines were draped like spaghetti in the darkness. An ice storm had taken up residence throughout the Finger Lakes. The paid firefighters (with the responding engine) and I listened to a cascade of calls flowing in from the dispatcher. Trees down. Power out. Smell of gas. Traffic lights dark. More crews. More engines. More fire companies across the region were being called to duty.

“Can you remain here protecting the road with your blue light while we start answering the other calls?” The paid guys asked. “Sure,” I responded. “Go ahead.”

Ice and falling branches sounded like breaking glass as I waited sentinel at my post. Little did I know at the time, but ice pulled the electrical service box from my parsonage, like it had from thousands of other houses throughout the city. My wife and son waited in darkness and dropping temperatures. She had to get our son to day care. Was it going to open? She had to get to work; mommas in labor don’t wait for no ice storm. While I was working fire calls, she was working the complex decision tree that was facing families everywhere.  

I was out for four days and nights with the fire department while my wife and son relocated to her parents’ house in Syracuse. They had lights and heat. The local Chase-Pitkin’s hardware store opened it’d darkened doors to the fire department. The kind general manager donated a pallet of new chain saws for the fire department; I used mine nearly continuously for the next week. Generous, oh my goodness. The world is full of great people like that store manager.

It broke my heart to pump out flooded basements and turn off utilities to families in need. The risk of accidental death was far too great. We delivered food and potable water, drove people to dialysis, and kept people’s home oxygen supplies replenished.

The second telephone call came a few weeks later. “The Bishop and I would like you to take an appointment to Palmyra.” It was only fourteen miles away, still in the familiar Finger Lakes. It was a one point charge. Cynthia would still be able to commute to her hospital in Geneva. I was ecstatic. “But wait,” I told myself. Take a breath. Count to ten. “Take the gift of consultation to do your homework, discern the Spirit’s will and direction, before you make a decision.”

Thankfully, I did. The judgment was made; the die was cast. We would be moving in June and I would become the captain of my own ship, once again.

Thank you, God, for the gift of discernment, for the clarity of your will, and for the opportunity to serve the faithful members of a new congregation.  

34. Disillusioned but Wiser & Parish Ministry Undercover

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After three years in my first parish I was asked to move. Ordination and full membership box, checked. This modestly increased my compensation package, but it just wasn’t in the cards for both churches to sell more hamburgers at the county Fair to cover my additional cost. We were happy where we were planted; the people were happy with my effort. The only thing that didn’t add up was the Conference minimum base salary and the bottom line. 

My wife, Cynthia, was comfortably employed by Geneva General Hospital, working nights and weekend doing labor, delivery, and post-partum care. She was hitting her stride, fulfilling God’s call for her life, doing her best to keep the obstetricians from knee capping each other, and expanding her circle of friends and coworkers. I pale in her shadow.

My new appointment was within commuting distance to Cynthia’s hospital. I was to serve as a co-pastor with someone who was fifteen years my senior. That’s what I was told, anyways. The vision of a big church with lots of people, far reaching missions and ministry, and a bump in compensation was too much for my pride to turn down. With three years of tenure, I can now look back and see how entirely naive I was.  Indeed, pride comes before the fall.

My partner was at the top of his game, politically connected with the Bishop and conference leadership, and well liked among peers. He looked and acted the part. In hindsight, he was probably excited by the possibilities of a bigger church, having an associate pastor and staff, and the prestige it provided. It also helped that he had family in the new church. 

My district superintendent sold me a bill of goods, some true, some not-so-much, and a whole lot of obfuscation. “There is a bit of a mess to clean up,” he repeated to me, an echo that led me to my first appointment. I showed up July first to find the larger office was already claimed, and I was to be happy with one half its size. Red flag, number one.

A prior beloved pastor left behind in a closet an aerosol can labeled “Bullshit Repellent”. We both laughed at the find. I should have been paying closer attention.

The people were wonderful to Cynthia and me, welcoming us to our new parsonage, making us to feel right at home. The staff became like a second family, Joanne running the office, Frank the custodian, Trixie on the organ, Sharon the choir director, and Barb the head of Christian education. All top shelf, first class professionals. 

Frank made the best coffee, and could often be found loafing in the boiler room, chair tipped back, his eyes closed in rest. The floors shined. The job got done, so, who should care?

Likewise, church leadership was excellent, local business leaders, a healthy mix of gender, background, and experience. All, well-educated, lifelong United Methodists and disciples of Jesus. The congregation was generous in sharing their time, talents, prayers, and gifts. Groups of the willing were being added to the roles with each new membership class. Fewer were quietly exiting by the back door. Racial diversity was lacking, yet, we were blessed beyond imagination.

One undertaker in the congregation was known to palm me a one hundred dollar bill at holiday time. Nice.

The second red flag was soon to be raised. In walked a former pastor to say “hello,” when, in fact, he appeared to be showing off two trophy women, one under each arm. He had left with a spouse dying of cancer, and under a pall of infidelity. The first attempt to move him was aborted when the new church learned of his portfolio and told the Bishop to go back to the starting block. His second attempt at assignment would end in unflattering ways, with alleged victims writing to me and drawing me into his mess. He was forced into retirement, but never asked to surrender his credentials. 

My foxhole just wasn’t deep enough.

The next red flag rose when we divided up assignments. Working with the Capital Fund campaign and the Board of Trustees was mine. Finance and Staff-Parish went to my partner. The one who is the steward of the money makes the rules, a painful point when it came to negotiating my future compensation. 

Other troubling red flags tipped up. No, I could not keep some things secret, especially where ethical lines were alleged to be crossed. No, I was never in the room, a la Alexander Hamilton, but I was being pulled into other situations where I was absolutely uncomfortable. Neither did I get any support for my less-than-forthcoming District Superintendent. 

It didn’t take long for trust to break down and for me to be seen as a potential liability. After two years, I was thankful for the experience, but I realized I was the captain of my own ship. Instead of ducking behind cover, it was time to maneuver.  We parted ways without any hard feelings, on my part, anyways. But our relationship would never be close. Over time, much has been forgotten, thankfully, but it was time to ask for another appointment.  

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The lap pool at the Jewish Community Center is down for maintenance this week, forcing me to forgo my three times a week pattern of swimming. We are all in need of retreat, fixing, healing, cleaning, and restoration. Even community assets like pools, recreation centers, and houses of worship need time and attention, I suppose. 

I laced up my Pentecostal red walking sneakers, planning to take on the walking track. Elevated above a gym that hosted three pickleball courts filled with competitive geriatric players, the walking track appeared unusually occupied this morning. Probably displaced lap swimmers, like myself. My wife allowed me to borrow her mechanical lap counter; an occupied mind easily loses track of such mundane details. Ear buds, inserted; Handel’s Messiah is especially poignant this season of Advent. 

The voice of Isaiah spoke powerfully through the eons. “‘Comfort, O comfort my people,’ says the Lord. 

Twenty laps ticked off before I knew it. Arms waving, conducting an orchestra of my imagination, I’m sure others stared in disbelief at this self-absorbed nut job. 

Both my artificial knees held up without a whisper of pain. Thank you, Lord.

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My original office just wouldn’t do. It was small, a closet really, right off the main welcome desk and administrative work station. Noise and constant interruptions were not conducive to the thinking, reading, and writing necessary for an Ordained, parish pastor. 

Ministry happens in the interruptions, a wise seminary professor once told me. Even he would be seeking new real estate given the unrelenting interruptions. A former storage room right off the choir room was perfect. Large windows gave me a northern view. And quiet; listen to the quiet! In moved a desk, my Kay Pro computer, books, and assorted office supplies. 

Patterns are revealed over time and with an attention to details. Each week, an older pensioner would walk across the church lawn to the center where a three inch pipe stood silently a foot tall. Just what was that pipe? And where did it go? The gentleman unslung five or six one gallon jugs, inserted a hose down the pipe, and began to crank a hand operated pump. Dark fluid began to fill the jugs. When finished, he carried the jugs to the trunk of his car, retrieved his pump, and drove off. Once a week, like clockwork. 

After a few weeks of this carefully choreographed routine, I decided I needed to meet this man. “Hi. I’m Todd, one of the new pastors here,” I introduced myself. “Who might you be?” Even as he continued to crank his pump he looked up and smiled. He introduced himself as a former custodian. He further told me that a former pastor had given him permission to draw off fuel oil as he needed, since the buried fuel tank was no longer used. A natural gas boiler had replaced an oil burner years earlier.

“Is it okay with you?” He asked.

“Yes, certainly,” I paused. “How long have you been doing this?”

“Oh,” he stroked his chin in thought, “probably for the past twenty years, or so.” 

Here was something they don’t teach in seminary.

The concerns of the chair of the Board of Trustees were embedded in the wrinkles above his eyebrows. He obviously had never known of the buried fuel oil tank in the church yard. His concern for the elderly gentleman paled in priority to a larger pan of frying fish.

“Wonder how big it is?” He asked. We had no idea, other than it had been pumped out a few gallons each week for the past twenty years.

“I wonder if it is leaking?” He wondered out loud. 

At the next meeting of the Board, the chairperson had the newly discovered fuel oil tank at the top of the agenda. Members shared concerns based on their knowledge and experience. What about the DEC (Department of Environmental Conservation)? They didn’t think highly of potential or actual fuel spills. Remediation costs were always astronomically high.

What about the city’s Historical Conservation Commission? Nobody on Main Street could so much as paint their house a different color (or pick their nose) without pre-approved permission. Professed ignorance was no defense. A long history of punitive fines proceeded our deliberations. 

Everyone talked themselves out. Apparently, there was no solution to this Gordian knot. No notes in the minutes were recorded and no decision was made; the topic was tabled by inaction. The chair moved on to the next agenda item and we got on with it. I could see from his demeanor that he was still working on a solution to the buried fuel oil tank in his brain, even as other items were checked off the agenda. Prayer. Motion to adjourn. We departed for the evening. 

A week, or so, later, I opened the shades on my office window and noticed a newly reseeded area of lawn where the pipe once stood. At eight in the morning, the church was just awakening. Downstairs in the kitchen, hot water was dripping into a basket full of grounds. The dew was still wet on the grass. I walked over to investigate. Hum. “What in the devil is this all about?” I wondered. Escaping my notice were two tractor trailer low boys parked in the back parking lot. By the time I returned to my office, they were gone. 

“What happened to the yard?” I asked the chairperson over the phone. 

“Is there a problem?” He asked. 

“No, its just that yesterday, the yard was green and this morning there is a 20 by 40 foot patch of newly seeded ground covered in straw.” I noticed the pipe was missing, but failed to mention it.

“I guess the boys got to work last evening,” he said, “but I’ve got to swear you to secrecy.” 

After dark the preceding evening, the chair had called in a favor. One of his friends owned an excavating company. With stealth and speed, a crew moved in with a shovel and cutting torches. Out they pulled a six-thousand gallon empty fuel oil tank, thankfully with no signs of leakage, cut it into quarters, and chained the remains to flatbed trailers. With my back turned in the morning, his guys departed with all the evidence taken to the scrap yard. Ten wheel dump trucks had filled the hole; the area hand graded and raked. Seed and straw completed the clandestine mission. No one the wiser, except the Board chair and this new, green-horned pastor. 

“Your secret is safe with me,” I replied.

That was nearly forty years ago and all the suspects I’m sure are gone to their heavenly reward. I am thankful that everything turned out okay, there were no leaks, and not a penny of church money was used. Whenever I’ve driven by, I take notice that the grass is still green. The only regret came when I informed the retired pensioner the next week that his old reliable source of free fuel oil had dried up. 

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The new parish and parsonage was in a smaller city. There were even movie theaters in town. Funny how one remembers what is important. We moved from being a big fish in a small pond to becoming a small fish in a big pond. The local fire department had both paid, union firefighters, and, three companies of volunteers. My former neighbor, George, well connected in the volunteer fire service made the customary introductions. 

“You’d fit in fine with the Merrell Hose,” the full-bodied paid guy said, as he tilted back in his chair. That was fine with me.

The Arenea Hose company was the traditionally Roman Catholic company. The Hook and Ladders were an assortment of cast offs, want-to-be paid guys, and manual laborers. The Merrells were the Protestant guys (we were all male), the oldest fire company East of the Mississippi, we were told, and composed of all the local doctors and lawyers in town. No, most did not actually respond to calls or fight fires; they left that up to about five of us willing young bucks.

The Merrells meetings were held in secret, in an upstairs room of one of the city fire stations. High backed chairs lined the four walls. A desk, gavel, and chest were located in the center. Votes were cast by placing a white or black marble in the hole in the top. I received not one black ball, was voted in, and shown to my chair. Wow. Cool beans. I was in. They even assigned me a chair.

The Merrells raised money by their bi-monthly steak and clam roasts. It was quite the social affair. Liquor flowed unabandoned. Some of the money went to charity. Some of the funds went to outfit the actual volunteers who answered calls with only the best firefighting equipment money could buy. I received new bunker gear, a leather helmet, a grin, and a handshake. That helmet was a status symbol, the envy of every other firefighter in the region. 

The call came in for a fully involved house fire on Fort Hill Avenue. I drove to the scene and met the pumper and paid crew on scene. The first rule I was taught early on, was only union guys were allowed to touch a fire truck. Rule number two: volunteers don’t violate rule number one.

I backed up and a self-contained breathing apparatus (SCBA) was hung on my back. Straps were pulled tight, hose attached to my face mask, and air was turned on, just as I had been trained. Brian Mace, another Merrell guy, was my interior attack buddy. 

We grabbed an uncharged inch-and-a-half hose line, handed to us by the white helmet safety officer standing at the door. Glass was breaking, flames were rolling inside, and it appeared as if the house was building up pressure. We handed our ID tags with the safety officer and entered into Dante’s Infernal. Black smoke descended from the ceiling down, forcing us to our hands and knees. The fire had started in a wood stove at the far end of the room. We pushed the hose line ahead as we slowly, but deliberately, advanced. Flashover was imminent. Brian was in the lead with a radio and I was right behind him. He was much more experienced, and I felt confident he knew what he was doing.

The ceiling by the double walled stovepipe blew out and fire filled the room with explosive force. Brian called for water and opened the valve. We knelt and held on tight, ready for the surge of water. As the 60 psi stream hit the fire in the ceiling, the blown in insulation soaked up every drop of water that hadn’t be converted to steam. The ceiling sagged with the added weight and let loose right on top of us. We were driven flat to the ground. I was knocked silly. 

The hot water and steam flowed from the shower over my battered and bruised body, as I stood in silent reflection and nursed an ice cold beer. Thoughts of life, death, and eternal life flashed before my closed eyes. I was thankful for the Hopewell firefighters who arrived on scene just in time to bring their own hose line in, all the while dragging Brian and my sorry asses outdoors to safety. Just. In. Time. 

Thank you, Hopewell Fire Department.

My tie and dress shirt was ruined. Pants were torn and smelled of smoke. They could be replaced. But, I was alive. Brian was alive. We survived. We all survived; nobody was injured. The collective effort of volunteer and paid professionals saved the house from further damage. After a few months of intensive clean up and remodeling, the family returned to their house and home, none the wiser. 

Fire and furry humbled me, leaving me wiser, smarter, thankful for God’s amazing gift of grace: the ability to live to see another day. Thank you, Lord.