Reflection on The Lord’s Prayer

The Rev. Todd R. Goddard, Pastor

Rush United Methodist Church

Three Newsletter Articles for Three Months (August – October, 2023)

The Lord’s Prayer has been a staple in my life, an anchor for my spiritual journey. As I’ve aged, matured, and gathered life experiences, my appreciation and understanding of these sacred directions for prayer has evolved and borne great fruit. Prayer is one of my spiritual disciplines, which I practice at numerous times of the day, drawing deep on memorized prayers, scripture, or free thought and expression.

It is my practice that, at the end of the day, I recite the Lord’s Prayer, slowly, thoroughly, and without interruption or intruding thoughts. A tangential distraction causes me to stop, breath deep, and start again from the top. Rarely does it take more than three or four attempts to exercise the Lord’s Prayer in deliberate completeness. When successful, anxieties cease, and blessed sleep gently comes.

The Lord’s Prayer is recorded in both Matthew 6:9-13 and Luke 11:2-4. The text from Matthew is longer and falls on the ear of a Gentile audience, many with little or no religious experience. Luke is short, sweet, and to the point, intended to be consumed by former Jews who have left behind their orthodox rabbinical upbringing and started the spiritual journey as disciples of Jesus.

The Bible you are reading is a better translation than the dusty Bible on a bookshelf that hasn’t been opened in years. Versions draw from multiple source documents in the original Greek, Aramaic, and Latin. Translations attempt, sometimes better, other times worse, to correlate the old with the new, across cultures, times, and distance. New language becomes old with the setting sun. What was new yesterday isn’t in use today. Consider how English has changed just in the short span of our lifetime.  

This photograph is an etching of the Lord’s Prayer in old English, created by my friend, Russell, who is completing his term in Federal prison. He created it, sent it to his mother who framed it, and she gave it to me. It is a kind gift, which I greatly treasure. It is written in English, yet, can any one read it for me?  My point is, knowing and respecting the limitations of language brings great sensitivity and insight into scripture and interpretation.

I was taught as a child the Lord’s Prayer from the 1662 Edition of the Anglican Book of Common Prayer, as replicated in the United Methodist Book of Worship. Though I didn’t know the source, rote memory has burned these directions of Jesus into my spiritual DNA. Accepting each word at face value frees me to contemplate deeper meaning and understanding.

“Our Father which art in heaven” is an introduction that reveals much about the one praying and the divine recipient of our prayer. “Our,” implies a collective whole. It doesn’t begin with an individualistic “My”. The Father is shared by all creation. The paternal reference to God is an attempt to personify the loving parenthood of our creator. We share a common father, whose creative effort is the source of life, and whose every effort is for the benefit and welfare of humankind. This makes us sisters and brothers, united with God’s Son, Jesus Christ, whose common family trait is love. When we forget our common father and unity with Christ, we begin to fail and fall from grace.

“Hallowed be thy Name;” From Exodus we know that the word ‘hallowed’ means to render sacred, to consecrate, or to be made holy. Both casual and profane uses of God’s name does not render to God the justice ‘hallowed’ expects. God’s name should never be used to express selfish anger, the execution of a contract, or in threat of damnation.  What if we fail to uphold our word, sworn in God’s name? What if we assume divine power that isn’t ours to claim or wield? God’s name is holy; treat it as such, with sparing respect and reverence. The use of God’s name should only be in the context of worship, bringing focus to glory, honor, and praise. Otherwise, I attempt to limit my use of God’s name to extend God’s blessing and love. These uses demonstrate sacred respect.

“Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, in earth as it is in heaven.” The word ‘Thy’ implies ownership and stewardship. This isn’t my kingdom, or your kingdom. Let’s get this straight: this is God’s kingdom. God created each of us, gave us life, and set us in God’s kingdom to fulfill God’s will. This is our purpose in life. Thy will is easily misunderstood as my will. The first step of kingdom transformation begins with personal transformation; from the self-centered ‘I’ to the God-centered “Thy.” Understanding God’s will takes effort to watch, listen, and discern. God’s will often becomes known in private and confirmed in community. Prayer is confirmed or dismissed by a community of praying sisters and brothers. God’s kingdom in earth, as it stands today, is incomplete. More needs done, and it is our job to do it to the very best of our ability. Jesus equates a future completed earthly kingdom with the current heavenly kingdom. This perfection is that which God’s seeks.

The wind gently blew down the St. Lawrence River valley, from left to right, west to east, carrying with it the aroma of summer weed pollen and fresh marine vegetation. Our family pop-up camper occupied a site right on the beach looking north. A central campfire was surrounded by numerous pup tents. Canada, a whole civilization, was on the north side, who’s presence was felt, but inhabitants too distant to be seen. The sun was yet to rise, giving a hint of light and warmth to those who dared to stir. Bacon cracked in the cast iron frying pan. A bowl of batter and whisk were poised at the ready. Squatting, our stomachs waited for our daily bread.

My dad was the pastor of the Sinclairville United Methodist Church in the late 60s. The ten, or so, elementary school aged kids and I were recent graduates of his acolyte orientation program. Successful graduates were given the privilege of lighting the altar candles prior to worship and extinguishing them at the end. Our final pass/fail project was to memorize and recite both The Apostle’s Creed and The Lord’s Prayer. The promise of a St. Lawrence camping trip and belly full of bacon and pancakes marked our success.

Jesus taught his disciples to pray “Give us this day our daily bread.”

He doesn’t say to look for discounts and sales, load up the freezer, or to stock up for a rainy day. The image of Bread from Heaven from Exodus 16 should linger. This day; means today. Daily bread; sufficient from start to finish, sunup to sundown. No more, no less. We are compelled to trust that just as the Lord has provided for today, so, too, will the Lord provide for our every nutritional need tomorrow. Excess that we stock away will only turn to rot.

Jesus responds to the temptation by the devil in the wilderness to turn stones into bread with his answer, “It is written, ‘One does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” (Matthew 4:4). The word from the mouth of God feeds us, just as certainly as our evening supper. Seek, knock, open, find. Feast on the word of God, as found in scripture and Gospel. Drink from the fountain of the water of life, and thirst no more. Drink from the cup shared with you, and taste the salvation of God.  

The God of my experience has abundantly provided for my physical, emotional, and spiritual sustenance each and every day of my life, from bottle and breast, to the skim and Kashi I had for breakfast this morning. Fresh each day, the word of God has sustained me, just as it is able to sustain you.

“And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them that trespass against us” Jesus taught. Trespass. Sin. Debts. Whichever. Whatever. What works for you is the best translation to use.

An honest, transparent, authentic petition for forgiveness requires absolute humility. It recognizes the fact that a sin has been committed, either with an intentional act to harm (commission), or, by a failure to act (omission). It requires an admission of guilt, a confession of our moral failure. No one likes to admit they are wrong, your pastor not withstanding! But, wrong I am, to confront evil, injustice, racism when ever and where ever I’ve found them. I am wrong to break any of the ten commandments, just as I am wrong to exaggerate the truth. Sin is not confined by size or impact. Big, or small, frequent or infrequent, sin is sin. Harming another requires sincere forgiveness.

Forgiveness requires one to cease and desist. Stop the sin; and vow to sin no more; that’s called repentance. Forgiveness requires reparations. Fix and repair the damage I’ve done. Make it right, as if sin hadn’t occurred in the first place.

Forgiveness is a three-way intersection. Sin is the abuse of another. We sin against God. And we harm ourselves. Our forgiveness is a willingness to repair what we’ve broken, bringing restoration with others, with our God, and within ourselves. Forgiveness comes first from God, through the redemptive act of Jesus Christ, and is given to us as a gift of grace as a tool to wield, that God’s kingdom may become perfected on earth as it is in heaven.

There is a word that connects the two phrases about trespasses. The word is “as”. Forgiveness given is to be balanced with forgiveness received. A world out of balance abuses the perfect nature of God’s intent for the redemption of humanity.

Lastly, forgiveness is a habit of experience that we are to teach by word and example to the next generation. Just as we have received forgiveness as a gift from God, so, too, are we to pass the gift on to our children. Give it away. Teach it well. Be certain to make the connection between forgiveness and the cross of Jesus Christ. He died to take our sin away; vow to not to muck it up again. You’ve cleaned up; keep yourself clean; and, lend a hand to help others keep themselves growing among moral, ethical, and spiritual lines, too.

When we gather for worship, the Lord’s Prayer plays a prominent part in the liturgy, the ebb and flow of Word proclaimed and Prayers at the Eucharistic Table. Though visited occasionally by the three-year lectionary guide, it is our United Methodist habit to include the Lord’s Prayer on a weekly basis. It is elemental to our faith.

When we have no words, Jesus gives us words. When lost, the Lord’s Prayer provides orientation and stability when most needed. When my mind races down tangential rabbit holes, the Lord’s Prayer provides me center, quiet, and peace. Balance is restored, forgiveness is granted, danger is averted. God’s kingdom is lifted high, God’s power and glory is acknowledged, and God’s name is appropriately hallowed.

A quick back-of-the-napkin summation tells me I’ve celebrated 271 funerals, 128 weddings, and led more than 1,824 worship services. I estimate I’ve recited the Lord’s Prayer over 19,000 times each night before sleep. That is a lot of Lord’s Prayer. It has become for me the common strand of spiritual DNA that links me to sinners and saints, past, present, and future. It joins Jesus to my hip, sharing heart and hands.

Standing in the Lyons, NY cemetery recently, reading from my 1965 Book of Worship, my aging fingers traced the sacred words, illuminated by the afternoon sun, as we bid good-bye and laid Paul to rest. The 21,223rd recitation of the Lord’s Prayer was just as deep and heartfelt as the first. Prayer changes this disciple for the better, and can do the same for you, too.

Jesus says, “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” Too often, this thought is broken into two, leading to the misunderstanding that God would somehow lead us into temptation. No. This is a recognition that evil and temptation are a present and dangerous part of the world. This recognizes God’s promise to be present, to give us strength, and to give us guidance to steer clear of temptation and evil. When we do fail and step into the mire of sin, God’s promise, made manifest by the redemption of Jesus Christ, throws us a lifeline and gives us a second chance.

God desires our righteousness; our adherence to law and fidelity to faith. Healing and well-being follow.

You and I will face temptations and evil. Count on it. Ignore it at your own peril. Pastors and faith leaders are magnets for the evil of this world. I know this to be true. The Lord’s Prayer gives me confidence to square off with the devil and stair him down. No one can do this on individual merit or strength. You and I are free to lean heavy into God’s presence and power.

“For thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory,” Jesus continues. This is God’s kingdom. Thanks for asking. Not yours, not mine, not Albany’s, nor Washington’s. This is God’s kingdom and we are so privileged to be citizens benefiting of God’s love, mercy, and grace. God’s power reigns supreme. There are no competitors. We need fear no enemy, no government, no competitor to our faith and values. When we know God has all power, we are freed from a fear-based existence. Living free from fear is a life transformed, a new heaven, and a new earth. To God be the glory, a recognition of what God has done throughout salvation history, from the first day of creation to your most recent heartbeat. To God be the glory, winning victory over death, the creator of mortal life, the giver of eternal life.

“For ever and ever,” Jesus concludes. Time is suspended in God’s kingdom. “A thousand years is like a day to the Lord” the apostle Peter reminds the Church. The Alpha and the Omega invites us into an ocean of grace to eternally benefit from God’s love and power. These are not circular theological discussions meant to appease the uninformed and ignorant. The Lord’s Prayer is our stake in the sand, making our claim as disciples of Jesus, confident in our faith, placing our complete and whole trust in the Lord.

Beloved, join me in prayer; the Lord’s Prayer.

Todd

“Forgiveness From Your Heart”

Matthew 18:21-35

September 17, 2023

The Rev. Todd R. Goddard, Pastor

Rush United Methodist Church

Matthew 18:21-35

Then Peter came and said to him, “Lord, if another member of the church sins against me, how often should I forgive? As many as seven times?”

 Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times.

“For this reason the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his slaves. When he began the reckoning, one who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him; and, as he could not pay, his lord ordered him to be sold, together with his wife and children and all his possessions, and payment to be made. So the slave fell on his knees before him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ And out of pity for him, the lord of that slave released him and forgave him the debt.

But that same slave, as he went out, came upon one of his fellow slaves who owed him a hundred denarii; and seizing him by the throat, he said, ‘Pay what you owe.’ Then his fellow slave fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ But he refused; then he went and threw him into prison until he would pay the debt.

When his fellow slaves saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their lord all that had taken place.

Then his lord summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked slave! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. Should you not have had mercy on your fellow slave, as I had mercy on you?’ And in anger his lord handed him over to be tortured until he would pay his entire debt.

So my heavenly Father will also do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”

| Centering Prayer |

I. Matthew chapter 18 is a lesson:

Jesus teaches his disciples

how they can organize and get along

once he is absent.

St. Matthew recalls his personal experience.

He draws on the memorized oral tradition.

He referenced bits and pieces of written material circulating from the community of Mark’s followers.

St. Matthew puts it all together

to deliver Christ’s message

to disciples of Jesus,

to members of Matthew’s early church community, and

to us today.

Prior to this morning, Jesus taught

  1. To become humble like little children.

  2. Not to cause any little ones to stumble (remember the mill stone around the neck!).

  3. To cut off or pluck out the part of the body that causes you to sin (ouch).

  4. To go after the one who has gone astray, leaving the 99 behind (lost sheep).

  5. Last Sunday, instructions concerning conflict between yourself and someone else:

  a. First, go to the person alone. If that doesn’t work…

  b. Second, return to the person with 2 or 3 witnesses. If that doesn’t work…

  c. Third, take the person and the issue before the church. If that doesn’t work, the person cuts themself off from the church, then…

  d. Treat them as a Gentile and a tax collector. That is, constant vigilance and receptiveness to their return to the community.

II. Our Gospel lesson picks up the story here this morning.

Poor old Peter,

if only he would keep his big mouth shut!

If he had, we would be

much the poorer for it.

Peter asks the question,

in response to Jesus’ teaching about how to deal with internal conflict,

“what then, is the standard of mercy?”

“To what extent do we forgive?”

  a.  There is the Jewish standard:

God forgives 3 times, as recorded in Amos 1:3, 2:1.

The prophet Amos makes the case:

Man could not be more gracious than God.

  b. Peter asks,

how about twice the Jewish standard (2X3)

plus one for good measure? (2X3+1)

“How often should I forgive?

As many as seven times?” (18:21)

Perhaps he was thinking, “won’t Jesus think that I’m quite the compassionate guy?”

  c. Jesus: “Not seven times, but,

I tell you, seventy-seven times.”

Forget the prophetic standard.

Not 3.

Nope. Forget Peter’s standard.

Not 7.

What is Jesus’ standard?

Forgive 77 times.

In other words

The forgiveness that you grant to others should be ABSURDLY HUGE.

Forgiveness is not proportional.

Forgiveness is not mathematical.

I’d suggest

Jesus is hinting

Forgiveness should reflect the abundance of God’s grace.

Jesus’ provides a common financial illustration

To communicate his point.

He uses everyday finances,

Something everyone in his audience could relate to.

Talent

The King’s manager owed his King 10,000 talents.

Estimates vary regarding how much one talent was worth,

Anywhere between $1,000 and

20 years of wages for the common worker.

In today’s wages

The King’s manager owed his King

Between $10,000 and $1,200,000.

We are talking a lot of money!

10,000 talents is an unimaginable amount of debt,

Especially since it is owed to a

King with an army

Of collection agents!

Denarii

A denarius was a small silver Roman coin.

Think of it like a modern-day dime.

Roman soldiers were paid about 225 denarius per year.

1 Denarii = about 1 days wage.

In today’s wages

About $137.

In other words,

It takes many thousands of denarii to equal 1 Talent.

The slave owed the King’s manager 100 denarii,

Not even one tenth of a Talent.

He owed the manager pocket change.

Remember, the manager owed his King

(possibly) millions of dollars.

The contrast is huge!

Pocket change verses millions.

III. With this fictional story

Jesus redefines forgiveness.

The new standard for forgiveness is

Shock and awe.

Forgiveness should

Not be proportional.

Nothing even close.

Forgiveness must be

Like a dam that breaks,

A flood that gushes,

Like a collapsing and exploding black hole,

Like the depth and breadth of an ocean,

Like nuclear fission lighting up the night sky.

Overwhelming,

Incomprehensible,

Extravagant.

Impossibly huge.

Forgiveness should drown

both giver and receiver

in God’s abundant, amazing grace.

This is the magnitude of Christ’s forgiveness.

This then, is the standard of mercy that Jesus calls for:

forgive one another,

forgive without reservation,

forgive without end.

Remember the sins of others no more.

IV. There is a second measure of Good News in our Gospel lesson for today:

it lays in the illustration that Jesus tells,

as it relates to his previous teaching.

Last Sunday:

Jesus taught about

reconciling two conflicting members of the faith community.

Reconciliation = reunification of the whole.

Jesus’ illustration today nudges reconciliation one step further:

reconciliation is found through forgiveness.

Reconciliation

is dependent upon the King’s manager,

who, in turn,

is expected to forgive the Slave who owes him.

Forgiveness is for Jesus: the NEW DIVINE STANDARD.

  a. “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.” (5:7)

  b. “If anyone strikes you on the right cheek, turn the other also.” (5:39)

  c. “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” (6:12)

  d. “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.(6:14)

  e. “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:36-37)

The contrast is clear:

Old Standard: Law, Judgement, Old Testament.

NEW DIVINE STANDARD: Forgiveness, Jesus, New Testament.

Christ’s new desired outcome is that forgiveness leads to reconciliation.

IV. Which brings us to the third gem in today’s Gospel lesson:

True forgiveness comes from the heart.

It must be Genuine,

not contrived,

not forced,

not an attempt to outdo the goodness of someone else.

Authentic forgiveness is about God’s grace.

Jesus’ teaching is not a story to be moralized.

Jesus’ teaching is about the TRUE EXPERIENCE OF GRACE.

God’s grace is absurdly huge!

  a. Like the King in His illustration, God’s grace is without limit or end.

  b. It is only dependent on one thing: our willingness to extend grace and forgiveness to someone else.

Just as God’s grace comes from the heart,

So, too, should be the way we treat others.

Jesus followers lead with the heart.

V. The joy of heavenly living is found in the act of forgiveness.

God uses the same standard of judgement with us,

when it comes to forgiveness,

that we are to employ with others.

This is Good News to some, but

Bad, very Bad News for others:

folks who carry a grudge,

the eternal chip on their shoulder;

folks who are always looking to find fault with someone else;

folks who are more concerned with rules than with relationships.

Therefore, vow to be absurd! …

to forgive others who have hurt us…

to forgive them as abundantly, as lavishly, as Jesus forgives us.

This is Christ’s invitation to you:

Lay down your burdens,

give up harboring those bad memories,

those past sins,

and go…

go to the one who has hurt you,

and with all your heart,

forgive them everything,

and remember their sin no more.

If they accept: wonderful!

If they don’t: wipe the dust off your feet and move on.

Harbor no ill will.

There will be sadness in their rejection.

There should be joy in the hope, anticipation, expectation

Of future reconciliation.

If you say that it can’t be done,

God’s limitless grace makes even the seemingly impossible truly possible.

This is the stuff that miracles are made from!

VI. Go, sisters and brothers, go.

Immerse yourself in God’s grace.

Forgive from the depth of your heart,

Wait for the miracle.

Be reconciled.

Thanks be to God.

Amen.

Invocation

Monroe County Legislature

September 12, 2023

The Rev. Todd R. Goddard, Pastor

Rush United Methodist Church

Creator of cosmos,

Genesis of life, health, and breath,

Spirit of wind, sunlight, and rain,

Radiance of moon and stars;

Come to your chosen and anointed Monroe County representatives

Assembled this evening,

Leaders of diverse faith, culture, and values.

Visit them with your Spirit and

Visions of direction, conviction, and power.

Impart

Voice to speak for the voiceless,

Repair for the broken,

Hospitality to welcome visitors, neighbors, and friends,

Healing for all who are addicted, harmed, or grieved,

Support for widows, children, the aged, and homeless,

Justice, fairly enforced

Equal opportunity for all.

By the same measure of grace afforded me

Prosper our people,

Increase our gratitude,

Deepen our faith, and

Expand our compassion and love.

In the name of the incarnate Lord of my experience,

Jesus Christ,

Mercifully, hear our prayer.

Amen.

Presentation by Monroe County Legislator, Steve Brew

“Caring Enough to Confront”

Matthew 18:15-20

September 10, 2023

The Rev. Todd R. Goddard, Pastor

Rush United Methodist Church

Matthew 18:15-20

“If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”

| Centering Prayer |

Since last Sunday,

Jesus and his disciples

Journeyed south,

First, to his transfiguration,

Then, with his face oriented to Jerusalem,

to Galilee, specifically, Capernaum,

Where Jesus tells his disciples a second time

That he will be betrayed, killed, and resurrected on the third day.

(16:21-23, 17:22-23)

It appears he is driving home a point;

Making a statement

That his followers should pay attention.

Indeed, the pinnacle event in the life of Christ

Was his denial, betrayal, passion, suffering, death, and resurrection.

Sorry to all the Christmas aficionados.

Annunciation, immaculate conception, and incarnation,

St. Nicholas, decorated Christmas trees, candles on the window sill, and lightly falling snow,

Great in their own right,

Serve only as elaborate stage scenery for

Christ’s penultimate act,

His passion, death, and resurrection.

Christ’s messianic fulfillment of the Father’s will

Demonstrated God’s great love for us;

An unbounded commitment to the redemption and salvation of humankind,

Fulfilled responsibility for the stewardship of creation,

And a pledge to, lo,

Remain with us always.

Jesus Christ, Son of God.

Commitment.

Responsibility.

Pledge.

Oh, boy. Three ideals and values

That make this son of a Pennsylvania Dutch family

Approach with apprehension.

Yet, commitment, responsibility, and pledge

Speak to our own baptismal vows,

To the vastness of God’s unlimited grace and love,

And to our place in God’s evolving, maturing kingdom.

Dare we speak openly about commitment?

My own, and the commitment of those around us?

Do we stand idle while some fall inactive

Or backslide themselves into the category of “nones”?

Oooo.

It is as if

commitment in this day and age is a dirty word.

Dare you and I speak about responsibility honestly and transparently?

It is my responsibility to teach every child and new disciple

All that has been taught me.

Am I living up to the task?

Is my commitment commensurate

With Christ’s commitment to redeem the sins of the world?

It is my responsibility to lead people to Jesus,

Introduce them to the Way,

And leave the rest up to God.

Am I?

It is my responsibility to love,

Love God,

Love neighbors,

Love enemies,

To show the world that, by our love, we are known as disciples of Jesus.

Have I?

Oooo.

It is, as if,

Responsibility in this day and age is a dirty word.

Dare I speak about my oath, my promise, my pledge?

I will be loyal to the United Methodist Church.

I will support the mission and ministries of the Rush United Methodist Church.

I pledge my support to Christ and his Church

with my time, talent, and treasures.

Do I accept the responsibility given to me to love and loyalty

That Christ bore upon himself with his suffering, passion, and death?

I pledge a tenth of my time, every day,

To acts of charity, outreach, and ministry.

I pledge a tenth of all I earn

To return to God

Who first gave it.

Oooo.

It is as if

Pledge is just another topic that,

If we don’t talk about it

Maybe it will just go away.

Besides, polite people don’t talk about commitment, responsibility, and pledge.

Or do they?

(I think I just did)

Jesus pledged to give his life, his all.

Can I?

In today’s Gospel passage

Jesus introduces his disciples to a fourth uncomfortable

Situation that needed addressed

If his Church had any hope of surviving

The growth and expansion primed to detonate

Following his ascension into heaven.

Oooo.

Confrontation. Conflict.

Dare we speak about it

Or do we do

what all polite Christians do

when confronted with conflict?

Avoid it!

And if it can’t be avoided,

Sweep it under a carpet,

Pretend it never happened,

And just move on?

All, too often, I’ve seen

By pastor and parish alike,

The “I’m out of here” trigger being prematurely pulled.

Sometimes, it is just easier to pull the ejection seat,

get out of there,

and deal with the regrets later.

Confrontation and conflict?

I’m no district attorney.

I’d rather stick my head in a hot oven

Or walk over broken glass.

Jesus shows us another way.

Today, Jesus helps us to reframe, refocus,

The way we address the inevitable conflict in our lives

And outlines a healthy means of intervention

That can lead to personal, spiritual growth and greater institutional strength.

Jesus tells us

To care enough to confront

Those who sin against us

With the goal of retaining the sinner.

Confront;

Not to estrange

But to retain.

Jesus paints the picture of what healthy intervention

And what a healthy congregation looks like.

Here are some pointers:

1. If you find yourself in conflict with someone else,

Address it directly and promptly.

Do not delay,

For delay only allows dysfunction to grow and resentments to fester.

2.  Do not drag a third party into your conflict.

To do so invites the third party to pick a side

To promote an unhealthy “us verses them” partisan divide.

3. Do not gossip

For gossip only fuels pride and promotion.

I’d love the Finance team to put a twenty-five-cent contribution cup on my desk

For everyone who comes to me saying, “some people are saying…”

4. Do not by-pass the process Jesus outlines.

There is a reason Jesus prescribes a graduated approach to conflict resolution.

Don’t jump ahead.

Follow his linear, proportional design.

5. No one can control the response of another.

As I recently heard,

“It is none of my business what other people think of me.”

What others think of you is between them and God.

Others might dismiss you,

Become angry with you, or

Grow to resent you.

Then again

Your care may be the open door

Through which healing and restoration can take place.

In 1901 French archaeologist working in modern day Iran

Discovered 282 laws inscribed on an upright stone pillar.

These laws were inscribed between 1,792 and 1,750 BCE

By the King of Babylon, Hammurabi.

These legal codes were assembled

From around his growing, expanding kingdom,

Aggregated to provide one universal set of laws for a growing, diverse population.

In the prologue

Hammurabi states that he wants

“to make justice visible in the land,

to destroy the wicked person and the evil-doer,

that the strong might not injure the weak.”

“The laws themselves support this compassionate claim,

and protect widows, orphans and others

from being harmed or exploited.”

(as found at ushistory dot org)

‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth’

Is the cliff notes summation of a legal leap forward for humankind.

A response to injustice must adhere to an expectation of proportional response.

Murder, is responded in kind: capital punishment.

Robbery, is addressed with confinement and restitution.

Poke out my eye, and you, likewise, would have your eye poked out.

Proportionality is a good first step

And Jesus is quick to build on it.

1. If there is one who sins against you, something small,

go to that person individually first,

and try to settle it

… so that one is regained.

2. If that doesn’t work,

consult with one or two others and take them with you.

Try to settle it

… so that one is regained.

3. If that doesn’t work, tell it to the church,

and allow the church to attempt to work it out

… so that one is regained.

4. If that doesn’t work,

Jesus says “Let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.”

There is much debate about what he means here.

The common belief is that if a person rejects you, others, and the church,

then we must let them go,

yet, all the while,

watch, hope, and pray

(like a prodigal’s father)

for their eventual return.

At every step of the process

Jesus outlines, the goal is

“so that one is regained.”

Just as in minor offenses,

A proportional response also provides for justice in major crimes.

If the issue is large and serious,

the degree of response should be likewise.

Serious crimes or conflict that involve violence,

Jesus would agree,

require the guidance of community standards and laws,

a just legal system,

and the active response of the church.

Serious crimes cannot and should not

be just swept under the table, as if they didn’t exist.

At the same time,

even serious criminal offenses do not cut someone off

from the love of God or the grace of the church.

At all times law and grace must be balanced,

with the goal “that one is regained.”

“That one is regained”

Gives meaning to proportionality.

Like a the wizard pulling levers behind a curtain

Jesus is showing us behind the scene

What it means to preserve the health and welfare of human relationships

And the wellness of the Church.

Strong relationships are able to bear issues of sin and conflict.

It doesn’t mean we have to like conflict.

But, of the grace extended, we are given all we need, and more,

To bring healing and restoration to that which is broken.

Constructive confrontation

identifies the transgression that has occurred,

the barriers that have been crossed.

Hurt people hurt others.

Healing sometimes has to return to and fix the original sin.

Sometimes times people who hurt others may be unaware of their sin. Confrontation identifies the offense and names it for what it is.

Constructive confrontation communicates

the fact that you are committed to your relationship.

You’re not going to walk away mad.

You will not going to take your marbles and go home.

You are committed to working it out.

This is what friends do.

This is what disciples of Jesus do.

Deal with issues while they are small, and they rarely become large.

Proactive conflict resolution is vital to ensure the integrity, health, and wholeness of the Church.

Lastly, dealing with conflict and sin

makes a statement about the God we believe in.

Our God doesn’t guarantee us an easy life;

but God does guarantee us that we will have a divine companion with us every step of the way as we navigate through life.

Life is fraught with those who hurt you,

and, regrettably, the hurt we cause others.

We are a community of sinners,

Seeking redemption,

striving to become a community of saints- more like Jesus every day.

Today’s Gospel gives practical advice from our Lord himself, about how we are to live together as disciples of Jesus; how we should care enough to confront those who hurt us.

Confrontation can be the open door,

leading towards a process of repentance, restoration, and, finally, forgiveness.

Be not afraid.

Do not fear. Do not avoid.

Avoid the temptation to hide.

Do not run away.

You and I?

We can do this.

If only we surrender with a “yes.”

Jesus is with us.

Jesus gives us the strength.

Jesus shows us the way.

The Word of the Lord, as it has come to me. Thanks be to God. Amen.